How to Escape the PUA Trap?

What impacts does PUA have on female victims?

Women are the largest and most direct victims of PUA traps. The harm they suffer is not only physical and material but also psychological.

Firstly, PUA traps can cause victims to lose both money and dignity. Practitioners of PUA wait for the right moment to deceive women into lending them money under the pretense of needing financial help, with no intention of repaying it, thus committing financial fraud.

Secondly, exposure of privacy. The victim’s personal information and even nude photos may be exposed, affecting their reputation and safety. They may face immense social pressure and online harassment, making them feel ashamed and humiliated.

Thirdly, emotional issues. Women involved in PUA relationships often experience anxiety, fear, nervousness, and even emotional breakdowns, feeling hopeless about life.

Fourthly, trauma reactions and trust issues. Victims of PUA experience significant psychological trauma, often feeling regret and self-blame (e.g., “How could I be so stupid to trust him?”), lowering their self-worth, increasing vigilance, having trouble sleeping or experiencing nightmares, and exhibiting avoidance behaviors, especially fearing social situations.

What can female victims do?

Collect evidence. Keep records of text messages, transfer receipts, photos with the perpetrator, and any evidence of privacy breaches.

Seek support. If family and friends are not enough, look for professional services, such as psychological counseling provided by universities, psychological clinics in reputable hospitals, or social psychological organizations .

Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your physical health.

Legal advice. Keep the evidence and consult with the police, lawyers, or women’s rights organizations

What can we do for female victims?

Most PUA victims experience a sense of doom and suffocation upon realizing they have been deceived. If they are our relatives or friends, we should provide a warm and supportive environment. Here’s what we can do:

Listen attentively. Listen to her emotions and feelings, support her, believe her, and do not blame her. Emphasize that it is not her fault.

Be patient and accompany her. Show patience, accompany her during recovery, using phrases like “It’s okay, I’ll help you handle and face this little by little” instead of “I hope you get better soon.” Be there for her as much as possible when she wants to go somewhere.

Help with rights protection. Assist the victim in collecting and organizing various chat, transfer records, and audio-visual information. Help contact the police or lawyers for advice.

Contact professionals. If the victim’s condition is severe and you cannot handle it, contact a professional on her behalf.