Two methods to address body image anxiety, girls, come take a look
For body image anxiety, giving yourself confidence isn’t just about empty slogans; it’s about tangible actions.
Have you ever felt anxious about your body during intimacy?
Our society inundates us with definitions of the perfect body, from advertisements, products, to celebrities, telling us time and time again to strive for their standards – no excess fat, flawless skin, ample chest, tiny waist, shapely buttocks, tall and lean with long legs, large eyes, red lips, small face… That’s the perfect man/woman.
When we’re constantly told what a ‘good-looking’ body should look like, if we don’t look like those people, our bodies can feel inferior, flawed, and even our personalities might be labeled, such as ‘lazy’, ‘unhealthy’, ‘lacking determination’, and so on.
But dear, is this really true? Have you ever questioned this phenomenon and loudly wondered – why does being defined as ‘perfect’ for them mean I have to be defined as ‘imperfect’?
So, I sincerely suggest you practice these two methods to reconcile with your body:
Actually, we can start from a very simple place: making peace with our own bodies. Because we believe –
When one knows how to create their own pleasure, they also know how to play with others.
1.”Vulva Gazing” Practice
Before and after showering, take a hand mirror, carefully gaze at your vulva, then record the emotions you feel and the words you want to say to it.
This practice is called “Vulva Gazing”, helping us gradually build intimacy with our sexual organs.
The first time you practice, you can give yourself 15 minutes, and then you can take a look for 2 to 3 minutes every day, feeling the changes in our feelings towards ‘her’.
Bring this awareness habit into your daily life, giving ‘her’ some exclusive time. Appreciate her quietly, feel her joyfully. Gradually, you will find that ‘she’ is uniquely lovely and irreplaceable, so ‘she’ becomes an inseparable part of you, cherishing ‘her’ is also cherishing yourself.
2.”Naked Body, Pen in Hand” Practice
Choose a comfortable environment and leisurely time, turn off distracting notifications, play your favorite relaxing music, light your favorite scented candles.
Gently remove your clothes, be naked, let your hands roam around your body, touching and feeling every inch of your skin.
Take a pen, write down your feelings about each part of your body, and express your gratitude and love for ‘it’.
At the same time, try to allow yourself to feel the anxiety about those parts of your body that you don’t particularly like during the process.
When we are willing to spend a little time every day, appreciating what we love and allowing those uncomfortable feelings to exist, that’s the way to get closer to ourselves.
