Oral sex has always been a hot topic. The internet is filled with various oral sex techniques, but I prefer to keep things simple. The following tips might help you move forward with more confidence. Most importantly, they will maximize the pleasure for the giver. In the next two articles (Men’s Edition, Women’s Edition), I will discuss the ultimate oral sex experience. I hope my advice will be helpful to you
What is a blowjob?
The nice thing about this sex act is you can really make it your own. But your basic blowjob involves your mouth around the penis, moving up and down the shaft and the head. Here’s how to jazz things up.
Tease with your hands
Sometimes, going straight from kissing into oral sex can be super hot, in a “I just couldn’t wait to do this”-type way. But more often than not, a sexy lead-in is where it’s at.
While you’re making out, let your hands travel. Make your way to your partner’s thighs, then above their clothes, grazing your hand between their legs and feeling for their erection. If they’re not hard yet, it’s totally OK. That’s part of the process.
Stay here as long as you like, teasing above their clothes with squeezes, rubs, etc. before undoing their pants. (They might help you.) Once you’re inside, wrap your fingers around the shaft, and proceed to the next tip.
Apply oral sex oil
When performing oral sex on your partner, you can use oral sex oil! In teasing mode, apply the oil to your hands and penis, and rub it along the length of the penis.
Flavored: very fun for you, as it will make the eventual blowjob taste like dessert.
Water-based: a great choice if you’re using toys, because it won’t degrade silicone.
Oil-based: moisturizing and lovely-feeling, this one doubles as an arousal oil.
Silicone-based: the longest-lasting type of lube.
CBD-infused: this will help engorge the penis, helping their erection and making the penis more sensitive to the touch. Bonus, it will make their eventual orgasm more intense.
With lube applied, play with different grips. You can go up and down along the shaft, graze your thumb over the head (the most sensitive part of the penis), or try a twisting motion. Some people with a penis enjoy having their testicles stimulated and the hand is a GREAT option to test that out, before using your mouth. Cup the testicles and ask if it feels good; if so, add light squeezes.
Onto the mouth
At this point, you’ve provided lots of lovely stimulation with your hands. Time to bust out the big guns!
Take off their pants / underwear if they’re not removed already, and let the following ideas inspire your blowjob. These are meant to be pick-and-choose, so use what feels good and leave the rest.
Kiss their inner thighs
It’s tempting to dive right into the penis, but making them wait a little is fun too. Kiss, lick and caress their inner thighs as you make your way there. If you like, you can use your hands on the shaft while your mouth does its thing.
Lick the sides of the shaft
Because the head is the most sensitive piece of penis real estate, it’s nice to warm up the less-sensitive part in anticipation. Treat it like the most delicious ice cream cone, taking your time with each lick.
Stimulate the head while using your hand
If you think of your hand as an extension of your mouth, your blowjob is going to be much easier on your jaw. Wrapping your lips and mouth around the head, apply gentle suction while your hand moves up and down the shaft, fingers wrapped around firmly. You can come back to this move anytime your jaw gets tired.
Whole mouth action
Wrap your lips over your teeth, and place the whole shaft in your mouth. (This ensures your teeth don’t accidentally rake the sides of their penis.) From there, you’ve got options:
Licking: wrap your tongue around the shaft as you move your mouth up and down the penis.
Suction: this typically feels great on the penis, but you don’t have to do it continuously. Suck for a few moments, then relax while you continue to work the penis up and down with your mouth and/or hands. Repeat as many times as you like.
Deep-throating: no, you don’t have to deep-throat. But if you do, relax your throat muscles, and slowly take the whole shaft deeper into your mouth, all the way to your comfortable edge. This does create a nice sensation on the head, but it’s really more about the theatrics (aka, light gagging on the penis). The very last thing you want though is for your partner to press or hold your head while deep-throating. That’s dangerous! So ensure you’ve got good communication and trust with your partner before you deep-throat.
Speaking of orgasm, it’s totally up to you whether you’d like to ingest their ejaculate or not. Both are fine! The most important thing is that you’ve decided in advance. So make a plan, keeping a towel nearby for cleanup.
