Several Ways to Pleasure the Vulva

How to Give Exciting Oral Sex to the Vulva?
Even if you usually know what it is, we should talk about oral sex more often. This is especially important because oral sex is more likely to lead to orgasm than intercourse. Less than 20% of people achieve a vulva orgasm through penetrative sex alone, creating a significant orgasm gap.
Therefore, oral sex often provides a lot of clitoral stimulation, which is exactly what is needed for an orgasm.
Want some tips? Here are a few fun suggestions to try.

1. The Tease

Resist the urge to dive in all at once.

You heard me. Instead of targeting the clitoris like a bullseye, tease them over their underwear (or jeans / sundress / what have you) with your fingers. This helps direct more blood flow to the area for more sensitivity and arousal. But also…it’s real hot.

Try: rubbing their inner thighs, then gradually working your way to their genitals. Press harder, and take immediate feedback (such as them putting their hand over yours)

2. Add a Finger

Keep the tease going.

Start by inserting one finger, and pulsing up and down. You can slowly add another finger, possibly a third…even a fourth. Listen for feedback and the telltale signs of pleasure: moaning, heavy breathing, “more,” etc.

Try: using this opportunity to tease the G-spot. It’s located about two inches inside the vaginal canal, on the front wall. Pulse your fingers against this general area, but don’t get too caught up being anatomically exact. Ride the vibe, and don’t be afraid to back off a bit before you start over again. Maybe you should make them ask for it.

3. Tongue

Now is the moment you (/they) have been waiting for.

Whether they’re lying down or standing up, remove your fingers, and kiss their inner thighs and labia. When the moment is right (aka sexual frustration threshold), slowly and lightly lick their clitoris. Work up to sucking, tongue circles, adding your finger back…anything that gets them uttering a light expletive, your name, or a combination of the two. Speaking of which.

4. The Kivin Method

Twist up traditional oral.

Literally: it’s oral sex at a perpendicular angle. You’re licking horizontally rather than vertically, hitting more nerve endings and lessening the chances you’ll numb their clitoris out.

Try: having them lay down, while you approach their vulva from the side (rather than in between their legs). Once you’re in position, use your index finger and thumb to raise the clitoris and keep it in place while you lick. In some instances, this positioning might reveal two small bumps on either side of the clitoral hood, known as “K points.” If you can feel them, use your tongue to gently sweep across these areas. Don’t stress though if you can’t find them—not all bodies have detectable K points.

Try a few different licking techniques (circles, up-and-down, sucking) but if they tell you not to stop…they’re probably close to coming. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing, repetitive movements help facilitate orgasm.

5. Face Sitting

Kink it up.

Face-sitting oral allows you to lie down, while they get exciting stimulation from kneeling on top of you. And don’t worry – it’s on a full-on sit. We still want you to breathe.

Try: Laying flat on your back, with your head near a wall or headboard. Meanwhile, your receiver will kneel on their knees, straddling your face, using their hands on the wall/headboard for support. Your hands are totally free, so use them any way you like — grabbing their hips, rubbing their breasts / chest, squeezing their nipples. This wouldn’t be a bad time to Dom from the bottom, if the moment calls for it.

Feeling confident? Ready to help your next partner have oh-so-many orgasms? There are tons of ways to pleasure a vulva, but these five techniques are some of my absolute favorites. Get up close and personal with their clitoris…and enjoy the hot collab.