How to Have (Or Give) a Nipplegasm

Nipple orgasms are a type of sex act that is popular and easily accepted by most people, especially because they offer a fun way to achieve orgasm.

What is a Nipple Orgasm?

A nipple orgasm is a real orgasm, triggered by nipple stimulation, that feels as intense as an orgasm around the genital area.

A classic orgasm is caused by a series of muscle contractions in the pelvic floor muscles. Most of the time, these contractions occur because the genitals (such as the penis or clitoris) have been stimulated. This makes intuitive sense because the genitals are close to the pelvic floor muscles. However, genital stimulation is not the only way to trigger an orgasm.

Are Nipple Orgasms Real?

Yes, but it might take several tries to experience one.

Who Can Experience Nipple Orgasms?

Anyone, regardless of gender, can experience nipple orgasms. Nipples contain sensitive nerve endings, and proper stimulation is the key to a nipple orgasm.

Why Do Nipple Orgasms Happen?

Because the nerve endings in the nipples stimulate the same area of the brain as the nerve endings in the genitals: the genital sensory cortex. The science of orgasm is fascinating, and research is ongoing. But for personal, at-home purposes, you only need to know that orgasms result from neural signals in your brain, working in tandem with increased blood flow throughout your body. This is why I always say that your brain is your largest sex organ!

When your genitals or nipples are pleasurably stimulated, the part of your brain responsible for triggering orgasms lights up. Once the stimulation threshold is reached, nerve signals prompt rhythmic contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. Voilà: an amazing orgasm.

How to Have a Nipple Orgasm?

First, know that it may take more than one try. But certain methods can help you achieve it faster.

You can use your hands or enhance the experience with vibrating nipple clamps, as vibrations can stimulate deeper nerve endings than your fingers, leading to more pleasurable sensations. Here is a typical method I recommend:

1. Lie down on your bed and completely relax.
2. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and start tuning into your body. If it helps you fully relax, clean your bed/room beforehand, light a candle, and put on some hot music.
3. Warm some lotion or body oil by rubbing it between your hands, then rub it all over your chest to get your blood flowing.
4. Start stimulating your nipples by pinching, rolling them between your fingers, and squeezing. Some people prefer a light touch, while others like it harder.
5. Put on the vibrating nipple clamps.
6. Press the “on” button on the remote and keep breathing deeply.
7. At this point, you can use your free hand to stimulate your genitals.

You are likely to orgasm from this additional genital stimulation. But over time, you will get closer to orgasming from just nipple stimulation. This is a fun skill you can transfer over to partner play.

How to Give a Nipple Orgasm?

This is a common question, and I always preface it by saying: everyone’s orgasm is their own responsibility. You are responsible for yours, and I am responsible for mine. So, please don’t pressure yourself to make others achieve nipple orgasms! The ability to experience a nipple orgasm depends highly on the individual and how much time they’ve spent getting to know their own body.

Here are my go-to tips for nipple play that support orgasm:

1. Tease. I really can’t say it enough! To build arousal, you want your partner to feel like they can’t wait for you to touch them directly, so resist the urge to go there all at once. Start by caressing their chest over their clothes: squeeze their breasts, rub a hand over their chest, and stimulate their nipples while their top is still on.
2. Use your hands and fingers to rub the entire chest, warming up the area.
3. Start using your fingers to squeeze their nipples and check in (“How’s this?”) so you’re not accidentally triggering a fight-or-flight response. Listen for telltale sounds of pleasure, like deep breathing and moaning, to guide the pressure of your fingers.
4. Lick their nipples lightly, then suck a bit harder, depending on their preferences. Some people like nibbles or bites, and some people like a lot of sucking—explore together to see what feels good.
5. While using your mouth on their nipples, use your hands to stimulate their genitals: fingering, hand jobs, etc.

You’ll notice that in both sections, I recommend doing nipple stimulation with genital stimulation simultaneously. That’s because we’re building a new pathway to pleasure and orgasm, and it’s helpful to incorporate a method that already triggers orgasms, like genital stimulation. Over time, the body gets accustomed and starts associating nipple play with orgasm.

Does Anyone Dislike Nipple Play?

Yes, and it’s absolutely valid. Here are a few reasons someone might not want nipple play:

1. Regardless of gender, some people have many nerve endings in their nipples—so many that stimulation feels uncomfortable or painful.
2. A person might have a negative past association with nipple play.
3. They are a new mom and are nursing. They might feel “touched out” from using their breasts to nurse a baby, which can desensitize nerve endings here. Speaking of new moms, they might psychologically need a break from nipple play for a while. It can take time to reclaim this body part for their sexual pleasure, rather than feeling like their breasts are there to serve one more person.

Can I “Train” My Nipples for Orgasm?

You sure can. The aforementioned clamps are a wearable sex toy made to be worn with or without clothes. You can wear them in various ways for orgasmic nipple training:

1. On a FaceTime call with your long-distance partner. If you like, they can even control the vibrations remotely through the toy’s app.
2. Out dancing: the clamps can sync vibrations to the beat of ambient music. How fun is that?
3. At home: you can sync the clamps to Music Mode, connecting them to your Spotify/Apple playlist. The vibrations will then sync to the beat of the music.
4. Masturbating: as mentioned above, wearing vibrating nipple clamps while using another sex toy can create quite the bodycams.

Intrigued? Ready to unlock new pathways to orgasm? Remember, everyone’s journey to pleasure is unique, so take your time, experiment, explore, and most importantly, breathe.